FU & FI
Fucking Up and Fixing It- A Weekly Guided Reflection Group
The goal isn’t to never mess up.
The goal is to learn what to do after something doesn’t go the way you hoped.
FU & FI
Fucking Up and Fixing It- A Weekly Guided Reflection Group
The goal isn’t to never mess up.
The goal is to learn what to do after something doesn’t go the way you hoped.
"We look at what happened, consider what the child may have experienced, examine our own part in the interaction, and figure out what repair or a different response might look like going forward."
This isn't reflection for reflection's sake. Because getting it wrong isn't the end of the relationship. What happens next matters.
When?
Where?
Who?
We All Came To The Table For The Same Reason
Nobody joins FU & FI because everything is going perfectly.
Everyone has interactions they wish had gone differently — that includes me.
So when someone brings a situation to the group, our job isn't to decide what they did "wrong" and announce what they should have done instead.
We get curious.
No judgment.
Different perspectives.
A shared willingness to look again.
I'm Not Standing At The Front Of The Room With The Answer Key
I fuck up too.
My role isn't to listen to your story and announce what you should have done — I'm much more useful as a mirror.
I also bring years of studying child development and infant and early childhood mental health, so when there's a developmental reason something isn't working, I can help you see it.
We All Came To The Table For The Same Reason
Nobody joins FU & FI because everything is going perfectly.
Everyone has interactions they wish had gone differently — that includes me.
So when someone brings a situation to the group, our job isn't to decide what they did "wrong" and announce what they should have done instead.
We get curious.
No judgment.
Different perspectives.
A shared willingness to look again.
I'm Not Standing At The Front Of The Room With The Answer Key
I fuck up too.
My role isn't to listen to your story and announce what you should have done — I'm much more useful as a mirror.
I also bring years of studying child development and infant and early childhood mental health, so when there's a developmental reason something isn't working, I can help you see it.
Fuck Up → Figure Out → Fix It
8-week rolling group · week-by-week breakdown coming soon
Fuck Up
Something didn't go the way you intended.
Before deciding the child was being difficult, disrespectful, or manipulative, we start by getting curious about what actually happened.
No defending. No beating yourself up.
FIGURE OUT
We slow the interaction down.
What happened?
What might the child have experienced?
What did you bring to it?
Reflective practice gives us a chance to see things that were hard to see while we were standing in the middle of them.
Fix It
We are not fixing the child.
"Fixing it" means looking at our part of the interaction — what needs repair, what needs to change, what's worth trying next.
The goal isn't a perfect answer. It's a more intentional next step.
Fuck Up → Figure Out → Fix It
8-week rolling group · week-by-week breakdown coming soon
Fuck Up
Something didn't go the way you intended.
Before deciding the child was being difficult, disrespectful, or manipulative, we start by getting curious about what actually happened.
No defending. No beating yourself up.
FIGURE OUT
We slow the interaction down.
What happened?
What might the child have experienced?
What did you bring to it?
Reflective practice gives us a chance to see things that were hard to see while we were standing in the middle of them.
Fix It
We are not fixing the child.
"Fixing it" means looking at our part of the interaction — what needs repair, what needs to change, what's worth trying next.
The goal isn't a perfect answer. It's a more intentional next step.
Underneath FU & FI
Rupture
Something happens between us.
reflect
We get curious instead of deciding who's right.
repair
We take responsibility for the part that's ours.
Reconnect
We go back to the relationship,
a little wiser.
Underneath FU & FI
Rupture
Something happens between us.
reflect
We get curious instead of deciding who's right.
repair
We take responsibility for the part that's ours.
Reconnect
We go back to the relationship,
a little wiser.
Two Groups. One Shared Philosophy.
The reflective process is the same. The context isn't.
FU & FI: FAMILIES
For parents, grandparents, family members, and other caregivers who want a place to think more deeply about everyday interactions with the children they love.
*Bring the bedtime battle, the meltdown in Target, the morning nobody could find their shoes.
*Bring the response you keep giving even though it clearly isn't working.
*Weekly live group session, 8 weeks.
FU & FI: EARLY CHILDHOOD PROFESSIONALS
For teachers, family child care providers, administrators, coaches, home visitors, and other professionals working with young children and families.
*Bring the circle time that fell apart, the child who keeps pushing your buttons.
*Bring the strategy that works for every kid except this one.
*Weekly live group session, 8 weeks.
Fall into both categories? Choose the group that fits the perspective you most want to explore.
FU & FI: FAMILIES
For parents, grandparents, family members, and other caregivers who want a place to think more deeply about everyday interactions with the children they love.
*Bring the bedtime battle, the meltdown in Target, the morning nobody could find their shoes.
*Bring the response you keep giving even though it clearly isn't working.
*Weekly live group session, 8 weeks.
FU & FI: EARLY CHILDHOOD PROFESSIONALS
For teachers, family child care providers, administrators, coaches, home visitors, and other professionals working with young children and families.
*Bring the circle time that fell apart, the child who keeps pushing your buttons.
*Bring the strategy that works for every kid except this one.
*Weekly live group session, 8 weeks.